Happiness- Love the Life You Live

Love the Life You Live - Happiness

   Happiness, I think you choose it. I like to or have to remain positive to get through certain aspects of my life otherwise the sadness would consume me. I just find it easier choosing happy, it helps me adjust my mindset and determines how I interpret what’s happening. Choose to be happy. Choose to push away negative energy. Choose to be happy rather than to suffer. I like to see the good in everyday, everybody and everything. Of course that doesn’t mean I always find the good in people or situations that I find myself in but I like to try ! Only you can you make yourself happy. I would advise not relying on anyone else to make you happy. If you aren’t happy with yourself, you won’t think you deserve affection and attention. So make yourself a priority.

 I like to find happiness in small everyday things , things that make me smile ahhhh Sheldon the Lobster, wearing dresses, eating cake, reading chick lit, swimming, earl grey tea in a gorgeous Cath Kidston mug, spending time with family and friends.......the list goes on. My far too many photographs document most of the things I love in life on a daily basis. I think my choices enhance my life and how I generally feel, I enjoy creating happiness.

       

I deal with life one day at a time , I recommend this as it’s easier to focus on the present, not yesterday or tomorrow. Now this is a huge thing for me, because of what happened with Eloise and a few other traumatic and unsettling life events I don’t look back too often. I cannot change what happened but I can change how I react to it. Obviously I do reflect, I do feel anger and great sadness but I deal with it as best I can . I just feel that time is now, I am here in this very moment. I don’t know what tomorrow will bring and that’s probably for the best ! I believe in staying focused on today rather than worrying about yesterday and tomorrow. I don’t want to miss out on the happiness that’s available to me right now.

 

The art of being grateful also plays it’s part. I like to try and turn negative thoughts into more positive ones. This is especially true when dealing with Eloise’s heart transplant. Yes it’s so bloody horrendous that a simple virus left her in severe heart failure but it’s a miracle that she received a heart transplant that 16 years on is still beating strongly. I’m eternally grateful for all those who saved her, especially her donor family. I think being grateful brings on a positive mindset change, a better way of thinking and dealing with life. Just my opinion and something that works well for me. Gratitude makes me appreciate all I have in my life, my beautiful family, fabulous friends, my home and all it contains, plus all the loveliness I embellish my life with.  So maybe take a look at all the happiness you already have in your life. Focus on the great things you have already and hug those beautiful people who fill your life with love and friendship right now. I hear people saying “I will be happy when…” I’ll be happy when I go on holiday , when its not raining, when it’s payday ,when I lose 10 pounds… but happiness comes from living in the moment. By putting happiness on hold until the future,you’re robbing yourself of precious moments. Love the life you live.

              

I like other people to be happy too, it’s lovely to make someone feel happy when they previously felt down. When you turn someone’s mood or mindset around by helping them, you can sense it and that happy feeling flows back to you. People like to be around happy people.Happiness and laughter are contagious. Even if I’m really stressed out, especially at work, I try to be positive and energetic because I know it will only bring others down if I am negative (except on Mondays when I’m not at my Sparkly best ! ) People tend to dwell on the negative and bring others down. It is best to choose carefully who you let into your life. I find my life is better if it’s filled with like minded positive people who lift me up and only want the best for me and themselves. It’s good to share and spread happiness around, it’s at the top of my to do list plus a sprinkling of kindness ! Look after your friends, nurture your friendships and show them they are appreciated. 

   Do more of what you like to do, make time for the things that make your heart sing. There is nothing wrong with self care and giving yourself time to just be. Free up some time to do the things that make you happy. I love making plans , especially planning days out with my children and my gorgeous ladies. The gift of time is one of the best things you can give yourself and those you love. We live in a busy World but we do waste time that we could use in a more positive way. There is always time that you can free up, you have a choice, choose happy.