JANUARY - in one respect I didn't want this month to arrive as GOSH had moved Eloise's Annual Review forward because of her persistent tachycardia of unknown origin. They needed to do a coronary angiogram to see if her heart was ok. Mainly to check her coronary arteries following her two rejection episodes. But then again it's best to have answers and know what you're dealing with, always liked a plan ! So I wished time away until the appointment date arrived. Thankfully her heart was totally fine, all tests were normal , zero rejection on biopsy and her coronary arteries were "peachy" a great start to our Year.
This is the month I bravely joined City Socializer, it was a great thing for me and I've made some lovely friends and had some fabulous days and evenings out. Looking forward to more in the New Year.
FEBRUARY - this is usually a fun month as it's Henry's Birthday month and we always go to Butlins in Minehead.
This year my baby turned 5 years old
We enjoyed our week in the Butlins Bubble, hardly a bubble when you have Wifi but it's still a change of scene. Leah stayed with my parents as did the tortoises ! The girls loved the roller skating rink and Henry the swing boats. The Sooty and Sweep show was very popular too and Dick and Dom.
MARCH - not sure what it's like in your house but it seems like March is a bit of a non event Month ! I enjoyed a trip to the Zoo with Millie and Henry, I remember Millie had one of her mega tantrums !!! It must have been warm looking at their clothing.
March does however contain Mothers Day so rather than cook and clean up we went out for lunch.
APRIL - always a good month 2 weeks off for school holidays and chocolate as its Easter ! Travelled to Southend to the Hearts for Kids Ball with Katie and Ruth and met some of my lovely #TransplantFamily for the first time and caught up with others. The weather was glorious.
Another April highlight going to see Miranda Hart live at the Birmingham NEC , we made a trip of it and got the longest Premier Inn Room ever ! The show was great and Miranda her usual hilarious self. Think I might get the dvd so we can see the show again, after all Eloise is Miranda's love child !
MAY - May this year meant more travelling and more visits to see my heart family. Katie and I flew to Newcastle and had two great days shopping and eating ( of course) Managed to meet up with a few of my #TransplantFamily for drinks one Evening and have a cuppa with Eve and her girls the next day. It was a great trip and needs repeating.......
We enjoyed an after hours tour of the SS Great Britain one Evening, you needed to use torches inside the ship and search for the captains treasure which was gold chocolate coins, it was a really lovely Evening and the children enjoyed climbing all over the ship.
May is Amelia's birthday month, she was 11 on the 22nd of May
Busy month May during half term as S had the three youngest children I decided to take the opportunity to have some me time and travel to Norwich to catch up with my friends M and J, had a really lovely time exploring the city despite the wet weather ! Lots of beautiful buildings and a good shopping area. Had some good meals together and on the last day M drove me to a few places on the Norfolk coastline, stunning beaches, never seen such vast lengths of sand, all unspoilt and non commercial.
JUNE- now the month of June brought some highs and lows as for the first time Eloise was hospitalised with an infection, she caught pneumonia. I was taking her to Bristol kids to have routine bloods taken when she suddenly became breathless. This scared me as breathlessness is a sign of rejection. One of my lovely work collegues came and collected her and we wheeled her to A/E. Her temperature was high and after a chest X-ray pneumonia was diagnosed. She was discharged with oral antibiotics as she was seeing her cardiology team in the afternoon. Later once Dr M saw her he admitted her to ward 32 for oral antibiotics. 3 nights later we eventually got home. Eloise was a star throughout, I think she liked the peace and quiet of her private room !
A couple of days later we celebrated the 12th Anniversary of Eloise's heart transplant. Always remembering Zara Eloise's donor. 12 wooden hearts in Eloise's box one for every year of recycled life. This year I was lucky enough to get a limited addition crystal heart while we were in Newcastle, sold in aid of CHUF . The unit where Eloise had her transplant.
During June Leah finished taking all her GCSE exams in 13 different subjects and then left Cotham School . She really enjoyed her school prom and looked stunning.
JULY - I'm sure plenty of things happened at the beginning of July but I'm going to focus firstly on my scary 5 days on Tinder. Take a look you'd be scared too if you look at who is on offer in your local area ! I swiped away, not always in the right direction, made a fair few matches and got chatting to a couple of guys. Then I matched Warren, we had a short conversation over a day or so then on the 17th of July we met very briefly and the texting continued and facebook messenger was added.
Two days later I flew to Turkey with my family for another wonderful holiday at Club Orka in Hisaronau . We had a great first week with friends we'd met on holiday twice before. Such a relaxing break. A high light was our boat trip. It was great and we got some lovely professional photographs on a CD.
I persisted with the sporadic wifi and spent a lot of time in contact with Warren, you've got mail !!!! Very strange getting to know someone in this way. Remembering that last time I dated many of us didn't even have mobile phones except for work purposes. Dating or getting to know someone via social is another thing !
AUGUST - back to England, I'd arranged to meet Warren the next day Monday for a coffee as we arrived home at 5am on Sunday after no sleep ! But in the end as all we were doing was pinging messages we met Sunday Evening, followed by the longest date ever on the Monday. That was just the beginning.........
We got all grown up and joined the National Trust as a family. I'm so glad we did we've already had some lovely days out as a couple and as a family. The children really enjoyed Durdham Park. I think Eloise the most she loved the house as she enjoys history. They also liked the freedom of playing in the grounds, hiding in trees.
Also my very clever big girl Leah got her GCSE and Btec results 3 A* and 5 A's, 4 B's and 1C . Very proud of all she's achieved xxxx
SEPTEMBER - birthday month for me and Eloise. Eloise turned 14 and myself.....45 !!!!
Eloise with her Boofie dog from Warren, she had a great day and enjoyed TGI's for lunch as S and J were down for the weekend. She later went in lunch and cinema trips with her friends.
We enjoyed, well most of us a trip to Blaise Castle one afternoon and the children had finished on the playground equipment and we'd had a coffee we went for a walk to part of the castle. Henry had a mega red rage as the girls climbed onto the window ledge. I think this was Warren's first major experience of Henry at full ginger power ! He survived but with perforated ear drums !
Finally finished a little DIY project in September, I had big ideas of all the house Maintainence I was going to do but as usual life and enjoying it got in the way ! I'm still happy with how this little hallway area looks, just need a new PC as this ones ancient ! Sad to see it go as Eloise was given it by Make A WIsh.
OCTOBER- another busy month it seems those with a half term in them always are, so let's start on the 16th of the month Leah my first borns 17th Birthday eeeccck that makes me feel so old, how did my baby get that old ?????
During half term Eloise went on a PGL camp with Gosh transplant team and 8 other teenagers, she had an absolutely incredible time and loved every minute and made some great friends in the process.
It was at this time I met R the mum of Z Eloise's donor, an incredible meeting with a wonderful lady, we hope to meet up again in the New Year.
During half term Warren , Millie, Henry and I went to Wales. On the first day we enjoyed St Fagans , a museum of Welsh life, totally free and worth a visit. Lots of little houses, shops, businesses etc rebuilt on site . Great history , nice gingerbread too !
We stayed overnight in a Premier Inn family room and enjoyed plenty of food ! The next day we went to the Big Pit a mining museum. I think this was my favourite, so interesting and great to be able to experience in a small way what it was like going underground into the pit, so , so dark without your helmet light on, good job we did have hard hats as I bashed mine a few times !
NOVEMBER - I think the highlight of this month has to be our trip to London, we had a great time. As we'd been invited to the Gosh Christmas party on the Sunday we decided to make a weekend of it and S booked two hotel rooms for us. On the Saturday we went to the Imperial War Museum, this was somewhere Eloise and Warren really wanted to visit and they weren't disappointed. It was great, we are so lucky to have such amazing museums to visit all for free. Very thought provoking too.
In the late afternoon S took the three children to Covent Garden and to TGI's for their Evening meal. So I thought I'd take Warren on the tube to Oxford Street for a meal and then a stroll to Covent Garden. Poor irish hadn't been to London much I think the tube journey and subsequent scrum trying to get out the tube station freaked him a little. Have to admit there was a sea of people and you had little control over the direction you were taken in ! I tried my best to find a restaurant I knew but in the end we ended up in a very lovely Italian, sadly Warren's first lasagne wasn't warm so a replacement was requested. They offered free drinks but we refused but in the end we both got very delicious desserts free of charge. As town was so busy we went back to the Marriott, meeting S and Millie in the bar. Free drinks for executive guests so S and Warren made the most of this and clocked up a fair few Stella's before time was up !
The Gosh party was good the next day too, good to catch up with everyone, good food, kids liked their gifts. So I'm glad we made the effort.
DECEMBER - a busy month made busier by my bag swap trip to London ! Lots on at the children's school, dance Evenings, class assemblies, parties etc . Our calendar was pretty packed ! Warren and I managed a trip to Newport spending time with one of his brothers and his two sons. We stayed in a Premier Inn and enjoyed a lovely meal together in the Evening. The next day we went for a lovely drive a long the coast and ended our day in Tyntesfield NT, we had a cream tea and a wander around the house and grounds. It looked lovely all decorated for Christmas.
For the first time since living in Bristol I made it to the Bath Christmas Markets, I only bought my dads present from the market a metal Heron garden ornament. But we enjoyed wandering around and had a good meal out. We used our two together rail card for the first time, jeez we're middle aged !
I won't waste time blogging about Christmas here as I think I pretty much covered that in my Alternative Christmas log post. We've had a nice few days together as a smaller family unit since and it was lovely getting Henry back yesterday, we missed him. I think S will want to take him again for another break but at the end of the day he's his dad and it's good he's taking an interest. I think for the girls it's different and they'll not want to go to his home.
So 2014 you've been kind to my family , we've got through you unscathed , Eloise's health has been good, we've had no major mishaps and the victorian money pit we live in hasn't been too costly. I feel very lucky.
2014's major changes occurred in my own life firstly with me getting my social life back and secondly my first new relationship in over 20 years with Warren. Things are going well for us, which is nice. We've still a lot to learn about each other and that's a good thing, it all takes time and we've got that. Looking forward to more "dates " and spending more days as a couple and as a family.
2014 brought good times and sad times for my #TransplantFamily. We celebrated people receiving their call, we celebrated mile stones and anniversaries , we celebrated everything that was possible since transplant and things achieved from new babies born to transplantees and books of survival written . We hugged each other tightly when transplant calls didn't come in time and when the fight to survive post transplant became too much. It's not easy but we have each other. My wishes for 2015 that my lovely friends who are waiting receive their calls and get the perfect transplant with a text book recovery. For my friend pineapples son to receive his second transplant. For everyone to stay happy and healthy xxxx
My own wishes, I just want an easy life ! I know don't we all. I guess 2015 is the year I'll get divorced in just 4 years since I separated. Hopefully all the finances will be settled soon as that's been hanging over me, I want that sorted. Yet again I'll say I want to decorate the house, maybe this year I will ! So much to do but maybe I've got someone who will help me now so it won't be such an enormous task.
I want my children to be happy, settled, content and ultimately happy. I want Eloise's heart to stay healthy, I also hope to meet R her donor's mother again this year.
I want to take good care of myself, my own health.......better keep going to the gym then ! I actually think blogging, zoning out in the bath and going to the gym have saved my sanity. All giving me "me" time, so they'll continue in 2015.
So thank you to my friends for being there for sharing all the good times this year, I hope we have more fun next year. To my #TransplantFamily I love you all and I'm so glad we have each other #UnitedWeStand. To my family , five is still a pretty magic number and I love you my four babies very much.
Here's to 2015 bring it on..........
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